What to say on dating sites
But this shouldn’t be your daily go-to conversation starter.- JUST NOT ASK ANY QUESTIONS AT ALLA conversation should be a back and forth. Because aside from “how is your night going” (which really falls into the boring question category but I let it slide) he did not ask me one question.The conversation only went as far as it did because I kept asking follow-up questions. But despite this information being in my bio, he asked me NOTHING about any of those things.A few month ago I wrote a “how to ask a woman out from a dating app” guide for men, but lately I have realized that people need even more basic instructions than that.They need to know simple tips for having a normal conversation.And to be fair, my male friends say women are just as bad, if not worse, and I don’t doubt that for a second.But, I date men, so my experience is only with men; however, I think a lot of what I am saying can be applied to any gender.Whether through choice of school programs and extracurricular activities in college (I was a public relations major and I was in a sorority, both of which required a certain level of communications skills), or fields of work post-graduation (I work in nonprofits which tend to not only attract a wide variety of employees, but also a very diverse clientele), I’ve mostly always been around people who are pretty decent at holding a conversation. Trying to talk to men on dating apps is so horrifically painful.I didn’t know it was possible for people to be so horrendous at conversation.
Plus, a guy that is going to be put off by the fact that I’m willing to message first is not my kind of guy anyway.
Be happy you got a unique opener and try to send them something unique in response, or at least ask them something about their profile.
I stole this screenshot from a friend: I get that confidence can be attractive.
I’m not going to spam you with interview-style questions just because you can’t even give me a starting point.
Exhibit B: A very common thing I notice is that men love to complain that women send boring openers on bumble (which is fair, women frequently complain about the boring openers that men send on every other app).