How to know you are dating a married woman
This doesn’t mean that you, as the person they want to date, are a poor choice, but that they’re unaware of, and unrealistic about, what they can give to a relationship and their own emotional state.
If you’re considering dating a woman (or man) who’s married but separated you should reconsider.
The red flags are often there, waving in the air in front of us it’s just a matter whether or not we chose to actually see them.
Joan’s short-lived fling fizzled after the pointed email we crafted together.
I have been treating her like I treat my other relationships, but I don't think she has been treated this well or nicely. I asked if she felt like she was missing out on some part of life of not being married? A typical scenario is that when people finally decide to separate, often after years of being unhappily married, they immediately start looking for more positive relationships.
It was a sentimental attachment, rather than one of convenience. Sure enough, when it came to Jimmy, she was on a first-name-only basis.“Does he ever pay for things with a credit card? It’s another one of his old school quirks.” But Joan was starting to sound less sure of herself. The signs were all there, and thanks to the illustrious years I spent working as an exotic dancer, I knew all the tricks.
Oddly enough, many of the men who came into the gentlemen’s club where I used to work happily divulged how they’d deceive their significant others.
He was surprisingly honest when she asked him over email if he was married. He would move onto his next victim, leaving Joan with so many unanswered questions—it’s easy to ghost someone when they can only contact you through a secondary email account that you never use.
He offered no details, except to cry mea culpa and wrote back, “You got me. He was out of her life as quickly as he came into it.“Why are men such assholes? Why was it so easy to find a never-ending surplus of assholes everywhere you’d turn? We would see how easy, or maybe how hard it would end up being to stick to the men detox plan.