Dating in your thirties
Just because they too might be in their 30s, doesn’t mean they’re in the same place as you are.I’ve found it shocking how much this has happened to me. Learning how to be alone (something that horrified me in my early 20s) has actually really helped me learn how to be a better friend and partner. one date every week or every two weeks) and hold yourself to it.It will help you both respect your time (You have other things to do!The biggest difference from dating in my 20s from dating in my 30s is how secure I feel with myself.In my 20s, I was still unsure of what I wanted and who I was. So I tended to date men (let’s be honest — boys) who I met along the way. And you are not dating for the big events — it doesn’t matter to me if he shows up to happy hours that don’t hold significance.
Read on to hear advice, commiseration, and encouragement.(My heart was broken when my last boyfriend and I broke up, and I never got to see his daughter again after I’d been a big part of her life for a year.) So, before I go out with a guy, I ask. Most recently, I asked the guy point blank, and he replied that he had no kids. After dinner, when we walked out of the restaurant, I explained that I would not be staying to walk around, and I was going home. I got a text a few minutes later in which he apologized for offending me and not being honest. So I usually decide pretty quickly if I see a future with the guys I date.Then, on our first (and only) date, a little ways into dinner, he explained that he did have children, two children, but they didn’t count because they were older, not babies. The men I’ve dated feel the pressure too — on first dates, there isn’t much beating around the bush.But such is life when you’re dating at an age when one or both of you could have already procreated with somebody else.While the term “cougar” makes your skin crawl, there is some truth to the rumors that young dudes love a confident older woman.