Dating after divorce and teenagers
While your teen is busy trying to exert independence, you still need to lay some ground rules to make sure that the other parent stays involved in your child's life.
If your spouse has visitation this weekend, but your teen has a dance to go to, the parent whose scheduled time it is should take the teen to and from the dance, and spend the rest of the available time with him.
They still need to have two parents and they still need to have those parents involved in their lives.
Teens are working hard at learning to be independent, and this means that they do need special consideration, but it does not mean that you and the other parent should throw up your hands and say "there's nothing we can do." It can be difficult to continue to parent someone who doesn't want to be parented, but that's your job right now.
Flexibility Is Key Friends, school, sports, activities, dating, and jobs are essential to teens.
If you have a visitation schedule that severely restricts your child's ability to enjoy those essential activities, all you'll end up with is resentment.